Focus on the self-imposed comfort zone

source : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cyKbZBW7HmM

I want to focus on the self-imposed comfort zone because it’s the toughest one to change. However, I don’t want to gloss over the other two because they’re very important as well. So here are some tips you can use to address the first two.

1. Societal comfort zone 

a. Make peace with it 

Once you realize that you don’t want to stay within the comfort zone that society has created for you, it’s important that you make peace with that decision. If you decide you don’t want to go to college and would rather pursue a career as a cruise ship performer, do it in peace. You may be asked to explain yourself and it’s up to you whether you will or not. But regardless of how you choose to handle it, make sure you are comfortable with the decision. 

b. Don’t be afraid to change your mind

 Sometimes it’s not the expectations of society that bother us it’s the timelines that come with those expectations. If you step outside of that comfort zone and follow a different path but decide you want to return to the socially accepted route later, that’s fine. There’s nothing to say you can’t do things out of order. You have to ultimately do what works best for you.

2. Family comfort zone 

a. Be prepared to explain yourself 

Even if you don’t feel like you should have to, be prepared to explain your decision and choices. Family is important and you should do everything in your power to maintain those relationships. When you decide to step outside of the family comfort zone, they will demand an explanation. This is usually because they will take your decision personally. You’re not trying to make them agree with your choice. The purpose of the explanation is to back your choice up with a reason. You may or may not convince them that what you’re doing is best but that’s not the point. You are just honoring your respect and love for family with a reason why you’re shaking things up. By stepping outside of your comfort zone, you are also shaking up their feeling of stability. Keep that in mind.

b. Be prepared to do it alone 

You may not receive support from your family even if they do accept your explanation. When you decide to take an uncharted path, the people close to you may not know how to support you. You may not know how to ask for support either. It’s going to take some time as you figure everything out. This is why it’s important to seek out a community. You can even ask those people how they handled their families. 

You can take those tips and use them to deal with the society and family comfort zones. But like I said, the self-imposed comfort zone can be much more tricky to navigate. It often involves changing personal thought patterns and beliefs that have gotten you through life so far. Let’s dive into that area because it’s integral to truly pushing your limits for success.